What is polyamory?

In an article on Newsweek.com, polyamory is "ethical nonmonogamy, or engaging in loving, intimate relationships with more than one person—based upon the knowledge and consent of everyone involved."1  This means that several people are openly engaged in relationships with one another that could involve cohabitation as well as sexual promiscuity within the group. The Newsweek article goes on to say,

“Recently, Terisa decided to add Matt, a London transplant to Seattle, to the mix. Matt's wife, Vera, was OK with that; soon, she was dating Terisa's husband, Larry. If Scott starts feeling neglected, he can call the woman he's been dating casually on the side. Everyone in this group is heterosexual, and they insist they never sleep with more than one person at a time.”2

It seems that polyamory is another form of wife-swapping. So, how is this “ethical nonmonogamy?" Unfortunately, adding the word “ethical” to something doesn’t make it so. Why not have such things as ethical adultery, ethical bank robbing, or ethical embezzling? Does adding the word "ethical" to it make it okay? Of course not. Polyamory is nothing more than a euphemism to make something that is immoral appear to be moral.

When God is placed on the fringe of ethical relevance and rejected as the standard of morality, then everyone will do what is right in his own eyes (Judges 21:25). As society’s morals become more lax, we will see an increase in sexual aberrations. In the 1960’s, society underwent a sexual revolution – and not for the better. Traditional Judeo-Christian values were largely abandoned. This laid the groundwork for the expression of other forms of "sexual freedom," such as the promotion of homosexuality, along with its assault on families. Polyamory is another manifestation of the lack of moral integrity that is rampant in countries all over the world.

We have to ask, where does it stop? Where does the moral slide stop, just this side of necrophilia or bestiality? There are no guarantees. Undoubtedly, those advocating polygamy will want social acceptance. Then, when the sexual climate is so tepid, perhaps pedophiliacs will become emboldened and want their rights to the sexual expression of what they might call “ethical pedophilia."

The Bible tells us that mankind is fallen (Rom. 3:23) and possesses a sinful nature (Jer. 17:9; Mark 7:21-23; 1 Cor. 15:22). Without the guidance of God's Word and its restrictions against moral corruption, society will undoubtedly fall deeper into the abyss of sexual deviation. The necessary consequence is the attack and breakdown of the family, an increase of immorality in subsequent areas, and ultimately the demise of society itself.

Moral integrity is the glue that holds society together. Without it, we can have no society. Polyamory is simply another form of immorality that is growing and contributes to the demise of our culture.


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  • 1. http://www.newsweek.com/id/209164, Jessica Bennett | Newsweek Web Exclusive Jul 29, 2009
  • 2. ibid.

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Matt Slick is the President and Founder of the Christian Apologetics and Research Ministry.